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L *2a i•a.'l. (V-Thua.lky 31, 1979 ` coBAnaBICB ~ -' CANY THE NEUJ PAt1T5 ARE ALL SKIIO TIGHT... TNE M1SEW SKIRTS ARE ALL SLfT TO THE THIGR...,BLOUSES i,Rt OPEN'TOTHE WaliiT... by Cathy Gutsswlta ~-t?N3'EMPORARY LIVING ' As the (Cigarette) Smoke Clears ~R.~i~44 ~=~~~11,,~' 1.!~~?'j'r ~ ~,~.~ BY LETI'I'IA MSH) 3ALDBI[iE `1et"s declare a truce, a truce in the war between mmo- fiera and nonsmokers. I hate someone else's smoke as much as anyone, but I don't think that occasionally being d'ownwind of someone's cigarette is going to put me in the hospital. I oan always leave that smoke-filled room; in fact, it,e a great excuse forieaving a boring party-"The smoke & to be too much for me. The allergy really got to my ~jres . . '' It's a free country, and if we all consider each ~ other's ights a little more, and deal with the problem of, others' O&ettes a little more reasonably, we just might learn to alye together more comfortably. Asking someone noG to aftkoke in a gracious, apologetic manner works wonders. ing him not to smoke in a spiriU of hostility, because ''s endangering your life; heats up the war. Being po- tt(! about it and being impolite about it require the same ftount of adrenaline in one's system. et"s laok at some grntmd rules of politeness in this '"1< mind, since he has asked politely, permission is uaua4y, granted. If you're sitting at a lunch counter and you're bothered by your neighbor's cigarette, you have the right to ask him to stop"smoking. (Remember, please, when I write "him"; I mean' him" or "her".) There are two ways of asking someone to ceax smook- ing. One is in a snarling, sarcastic, hostile manner, guenn- teed'to ignit.e anyone's animosity. The other is to ask in a quiet, apologetic way. "Your cigarette is bothering meAW-s: Would you mind terribly putting it out? I'm sorry to have a" toask.. "' Maybe you're so antagonized by what the smokers are doing to you, you don't see why you should show any ciy vility to them whatsoever. My philosophy is that if we nonsmokers are incredibiy polite to smokers, they will be incredibly polite back to us, and we'll all be able to more etficiattly. ,;~_ _.. . ._. ._ _ . . ~ . _ . , ... . Firat of al1J hosts who refuse to let ya ~TP ~~ and wA1 aruuxr as ~siness of smoking . uestk smoke at all in their homes should warn all qutdiON as potnbli in her odwnn. Plsase oddrese your Jet their g first-time guests of this fact when the invitation is being IM to Ms. TfaitBafdrlpe,Los Artpeks Thna, P.O. BatS0Zg, eiatended: The nonsmoking host does not have to blow a F.D.R. Sk6on+New York, N.Y. 10022. bugle of self -righteousness. He should just be honest with- P 001 out making an editorial,,'Befo4e.you~accept.,i should tell I pu one thtng.l don't know whether, or not you re a amo- :C, ~er, but for varkn~sreasotu, we don't smoke in our house." ;,` °0L..(c..f~~°.~ ?This gives the would-be guest thaoptim of coming and a0t smoking ar of staytog home with his king-siaed ds. Some people absolutely cannot go through an eve- ~ emg without a cigarette. I pity them, but they have their rights, and so a host shouldn't spring it on them that they ci1u't smoke in his house when they're already there,, reaching for a light ;- In some states it's the law that people who smoke have to sit in a segregated area In states where there are no IF"",:-: m,tch laws, people should be considerate of others during mealtimes in public placea If one is savoring the joys (and - great expense) of a delicate seafood crepe or a fluffy souf- r. Qe au Gran Marnier, one does not wish one's nose attacked :~ by the residue of a burning weed. ~ ;; u the air conditioner happens to be blowing the smoke ~ lrom your cigarette into someone else's face, you should be iWare of it and hold your cigarette so that it does not ': ` launch a)et stream at someone else. If you're smoking and yott notice someone nearby madly waving in the air, he is : W calling the waiter, he is trying to clear away your r` ke from his face. It's nice if you do the clearing aw I ay cse; AskuHastlqad. "'No one should Ught a cigar or pipe in a restaurant (or anyone's home) unless everyone at the table has finished ' opgting, and "everyone"'should include those at nearbyta- bles. Before lighting up the strong-smelling object, per- ' mission should be granted from everyone at the table, also. (If you can't stand being with a cigar smoker, you will at '. least have had your dinner and you can go home. ) A host no longer needs to have cigarettes in his home to offer guests. They bring their own. The gracious host, however, places an ashtray and matches at the place set- . tUig for each smoking guest: i , Iv is also incumbent on each guest not to smoke cig- prettes until everyone at the table has finished eating. The , alnoker should also ask his hosts and his dinner partners if ~ they mind if he smokes. Even if his dinner partners do; . ,,